Couples Work
Your relationship isn't the problem. It's the most powerful tool you have.
The Real Issue
You've been having the same fight for months. Maybe years. You've tried talking it out. You've tried giving space. You've tried couples therapy. And the cycle keeps running — one of you pursues while the other shuts down, or you both retreat into silence, or the tension builds until something explodes and then you reset and do it all over again.
▸ This isn't a communication problem. It's an attachment problem. Each of you brought a nervous system shaped by your earliest relationships into this one, and those systems are now interacting in predictable, painful ways beneath the surface of every argument. The patterns that drive your conflict aren't choices — they're survival strategies encoded in your physiology long before you ever met each other.
▸ Most couples work tries to fix this through better communication. That helps — but it doesn't touch the root. The root lives in the body. In the nervous system. In the attachment adaptations that fire automatically when you feel threatened by the person you love most. That's where we work.
What I Offer Couples
Healing the Wounds. Awakening the Connection.
My couples work draws from two powerful lineages. The first is Dynamic Attachment Repatterning — the work of Dr. Diane Poole Heller — which maps and heals the specific attachment wounds each partner carries. Avoidant patterns. Anxious patterns. The ways you learned to protect yourself in childhood that are now sabotaging the intimacy you most want. We identify these patterns in your body and your relational dynamic, and we begin to rewire them — not through insight, but through direct somatic experience.
▸ The second is the Yoga of Intimacy — the work of Justin Patrick Pierce and Londin Angel Winters, under whom I train and serve as an assistant teacher. This is a practice-based path of sacred intimacy that goes far beyond fixing what's broken. It teaches couples how to work with polarity — Alpha and Omega energy — to reignite attraction, deepen presence, and transform your relationship into a genuine spiritual practice. Not theory. Embodied, practical tools you use daily.
▸ Together, these two streams create something rare: we heal the attachment wounds that create the painful cycles, and then we build something new on that healed ground. Your relationship stops being the place where your wounds collide and becomes the place where you both wake up — to yourselves, to each other, and to a depth of love and aliveness that most people don't know is possible.
Who This Is For
This is for couples who sense that their relationship has the potential to be something extraordinary — and who are honest enough to admit it isn't there yet. You love each other. That's not the question. The question is why the love keeps getting buried under reactivity, withdrawal, resentment, or numbness.
▸ You might be in crisis — on the edge of breaking up, recovering from betrayal, caught in a cycle that feels impossible to escape. Or you might be stable but stagnant — the relationship works on paper but something vital has gone quiet. The passion, the aliveness, the sense of being truly met by your partner.
▸ Either way, you're not looking for someone to referee your arguments. You're looking for someone who can help you understand why the same patterns keep firing and give you real tools to transform them — in your bodies, not just in your heads.
How We Work
We start by mapping what's actually happening between you — not the story you tell about your conflict, but the nervous system choreography underneath it. Who pursues, who withdraws. Where each of you learned that pattern. What it feels like in your body when it activates. Using DARe and somatic tracking, we make the invisible visible — and once you can both see the pattern clearly, you stop being trapped inside it.
▸ From there, we begin to build something new. Through the Yoga of Intimacy framework, I teach you practices for working with polarity — how to move between Alpha and Omega energy consciously rather than getting locked into rigid roles. How to stay present with each other when everything in you wants to flee or fight. How to move from story to sensation — dropping out of the mental loops and into the felt experience of being with your partner, right now.
▸ This isn't couples therapy. It's a training. You'll leave each session with practices you take into your daily life — into how you greet each other in the morning, how you navigate conflict, how you touch, how you repair. Over time, the relationship itself becomes the practice. And the practice becomes a path of genuine spiritual transformation — for both of you.
Offerings
Couples Sessions
▸ Weekly or biweekly. 90 minutes. Attachment repair, nervous system co-regulation, polarity practices, and embodied intimacy exercises you take into your daily life. Each session builds on the last — this is where the real transformation compounds over time.▸
Why Me
I don't teach sacred intimacy from a textbook. I practice it every day in my own marriage. I've trained directly under Justin Patrick Pierce and Londin Angel Winters — the founders of the Yoga of Intimacy — and serve as one of their assistant teachers. I've also trained extensively in Dynamic Attachment Repatterning under Dr. Diane Poole Heller and serve as an assistant in that training as well.
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▸ But more than any credential — I've done this work in my own relationship. I've healed my own attachment wounds. I've learned what it takes to stay present, stay open, and keep growing with the person I love most. My marriage is the living ground of everything I teach. I know what this path asks of a person, and I know what it gives back.